Hi, I’m Rob.
I’m an Identity & Transition Coach based in Brighton. I support people who feel lost after a major life change – helping them make sense of who they are now, rebuild self-trust, and find their next grounded step.
For a long time, I was living a life that looked right from the outside.
I had a successful career as an Agile Coach, a good income, and a path that made sense on paper.
But underneath, something didn’t feel right.
Part of that showed up through burnout and frustration with work.
But it was broader than that.
Over time, I became more disconnected – not just from other people, but from myself. The life I was living no longer felt true, but I didn’t yet know what was meant to replace it.
Eventually, I reached a point where I couldn’t ignore it anymore.
I started questioning everything – my direction, my identity, what success meant to me, who I was without the role I had built, and what I actually wanted from life.
The hardest part was not just that something was ending.
It was that my sense of who I was had started to unravel, and I had no clear answer for what came next.
For a while, I found myself in that in-between space – not able to go back to who I had been, but not yet clear who I was becoming.
It was disorienting, painful, and at times deeply hard.
But slowly, things began to shift.
Through reflection, support, and giving myself space to make sense of what was happening, I started to reconnect with what actually mattered – meaning, connection, honesty, and a way of living that felt more aligned.
I began to see that the challenge wasn’t just about changing direction, but about understanding myself more deeply – and allowing something new to emerge from that.
That process is what led me into this work.
Now, I support people who feel lost after a major life change – helping them make sense of who they are now, rebuild self-trust, and find a grounded way forward.
Because I know how unsettling that in-between space can feel – and how powerful it is to have someone alongside you as you find your footing again.
How I Hold This Work
I don’t see transitions as problems to solve.
I see them as thresholds.
Moments where an old way of being is dissolving, and a new one hasn’t fully formed yet.
These spaces can feel uncertain, disorienting, even painful.
But they can also hold meaning, insight, and possibility.
In our work together, I bring:
Calm presence
Deep listening
Psychological insight
Clear structure where needed
Space to reflect where needed
Practical next steps when the time is right
You don’t need fixing.
You need space to make sense of what’s changing, reconnect with who you are now, and find your footing again.
My Approach
Every transition is different, so I don’t use a one-size-fits-all method. My approach combines depth, structure, reflection, and practical movement – shaped around who you are, what has changed, and what you need now.
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At the heart of my coaching is presence, compassion, and real relationship. This is a space where you can bring what feels true – your fears, doubts, longings, confusion, and the parts of yourself you may not say out loud elsewhere.
I believe change happens more easily when we feel safe enough to be honest. Coaching with me can become a place to practise showing up more fully as who you are now – and then taking that honesty back into your relationships, your work, and your life.
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I work with clients who are asking life’s deeper questions – about meaning, identity, freedom, purpose, and how they want to live now.
Together, we explore what matters most to you. Through these conversations, you can begin to clarify your values, reconnect with your inner compass, and move through change with greater honesty, steadiness, and direction.
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Somatic work and mindfulness are important parts of how I work. Transitions are not just something we think through – they are something we live through in body as well as mind.
In sessions, we may slow things down and notice what is happening underneath the surface: body sensations, emotions, protective patterns, or different parts of you pulling in different directions.
Where useful, we may use grounding, gentle body-based reflection, brief meditation, or parts work – not to force a breakthrough, but to help you feel what needs to be felt and hear yourself more clearly.
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I don’t see people in isolation from the worlds they live in. Our identities, choices, struggles, and transitions are shaped not only by personality or mindset, but also by family, culture, work, relationships, power, and the wider systems around us.
Sometimes what feels like a personal problem is also a response to the environment you’ve been trying to live in. Looking systemically can bring compassion, perspective, and a more honest understanding of what you’re carrying.
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I don’t believe one lens explains everything. Every person’s transition is different, so I draw from a range of perspectives to meet you where you are.
That might include existential reflection, relational depth, somatic awareness, parts work, mindfulness, or more practical structure when needed.
The aim is not to force you into a method. It is to find the approach that best supports the part of the transition you are actually in.
My work is guided by the belief that real change is rarely one-dimensional. It involves mind, body, identity, history, values, relationships, and context – and I want the coaching to reflect that complexity.
Training & Experience
Alongside my own lived experience of identity transition, I bring formal coaching training, mental-health-informed education, and years of experience supporting people through change.
Qualifications
ILM Level 7 Executive Coaching and Mentoring.
Mental Health in Coaching Certification (Animas).
Introduction to Counselling Skills (Minster Centre).
Certified Firework Career Coach.
Ongoing supervision and professional development.
Experience
8+ years as a Business & Agile Coach.
Experience supporting people through burnout, career change, breakups, identity shifts, and other major life transitions.
Volunteer listener with Samaritans.
Experience holding space in reflective, retreat, and contemplative settings.
Beyond Coaching
Outside of formal training, I’m drawn to the spaces and practices that help people slow down, reflect honestly, and come back to themselves.
For me, that includes meditation, depth psychology, contemplative practice, long walks by the sea or in nature, and the kinds of books that ask deeper questions about identity, meaning, and how to live.
I’ve also spent time in spaces shaped by altered-state and plant-medicine work, which has given me a respect for how powerful and destabilising major inner experiences can be – especially when they raise questions about identity, direction, and what really matters.
Relationships matter deeply to me too. I believe strong relationships are one of the foundations of a meaningful life. They give us companionship, warmth, safety, love, perspective, and somewhere to be fully human. I feel lucky to have relationships in my own life that bring me a sense of grounding, peace, and meaning, and that has shaped how much I value human connection in this work.
Movement matters to me as well – whether that’s the gym, running, or dancing. Transitions are not only something we think through. They are something we live through in the body as well as the mind.
These influences shape how I hold this work: not as something to fix quickly, but as something to move through with presence, honesty, and grounded support.
Why This Work Matters to Me
I care about this work because I know how disorienting it can be when life changes faster than your sense of self can keep up.
Like many people I work with, I’ve been through periods of identity shift, uncertainty, and rebuilding – times when the old answers stopped working, but the new ones had not yet arrived.
Those moments taught me something important:
Clarity rarely comes from rushing.
It comes from staying with the questions long enough to understand what has changed, who you are now, what matters, and what kind of step is actually yours to take.
That is the space I now hold for others.
If you’re going through a major life change, you don’t have to navigate it alone.
Whether you’re in an ending, the in-between, or trying to make sense of who you are now and what comes next, we can talk it through.
In a free 30-minute call, we’ll explore what you’re navigating, what kind of support would feel useful, and whether Between Chapters is the right fit.